Unhappiness is something that I frequently try to ignore. I dislike dwelling on negative emotions and most of the time I like to conceal them except from the people I consider close to me. I wonder whether I will take my stress and unhappiness too far, and when it will start to affect my life in a negative manner. Are there ways of coping with stress that I am missing out on? I am trying to accomplish work efficiently with a positive attitude, I am taking time to relax and I am trying to avoid situations that are particularly stressful.
Is there some kind of unhappiness that some people just can't shake no matter how hard they try? Is this simply the result of having spent so much time away from home and never being able to truly be stress free? I'm not sure and I tend to never really be sure about the source of my blues. Perhaps this is merely a low point that will easily be balanced out by future high points. Perhaps I am simply dwelling on the negative right now because there isn't anything new and different to draw out my excitement. No matter the reason, falling into a bad funk before exam week is a bad idea. Dear reader, I discourage you from doing so and I'm going to make some suggestions in case you find yourself in the same position that I'm in.
My first suggestion is to take a break. Not a five or ten minute break, but a solid chunk of time where you can just worry about yourself, and genuinely do something you like. I'm trying to do that now, through waking up early and writing, but everyone has something that they do to relieve stress. The only time this "fool proof" plan doesn't work is when I suffer from some kind of writers block.
Suggestion number two is to talk to someone about how you feel. Talking to someone can help you get to the source of your unhappiness. Finding the source of unhappiness can often help get rid of it. It's also good to take time to vent about your grievances especially if you're someone who keeps things locked up until explosion. I suggest finding someone who has a track record for listening. If a friend is not willing to listen to your problems it will only make things worse for you and possibly cause unnecessary tension in the friendship.
Something else that I do, that may or may not be truly helpful, is rationalizing things. I ask myself: Why am I unhappy? Is there a good concrete reason for my unhappiness? If there isn't, I try to get myself to just simply stop being unhappy and dwelling on negative thoughts. Thinking rationally and realistically is better for me than being guided by my impulse and the same is probably true for others. I am unsure that this rationalizing is just a way of avoiding my emotions and bottling them up, but at least until the end of exam week, I don't see any other effective options
I wish I had more or better advice, but I am honestly not the best as handling my emotions effectively. Stress tends to make me short tempered, put me on the verge of tears at random intervals throughout the day and question the integrity of my friendships making me excessively paranoid for no reason. Once I get through the next few weeks I should be ready to dedicate sometime to sorting out my emotions. For now, I condone the use of quick fixes and compartmentalizing. I am writing this piece in hopes of helping others out and in turn reminding myself of ways I can get rid of this unhappiness. I pride myself in acknowledging it this time as opposed to completely ignoring it until an emotional breakdown.
Is there some kind of unhappiness that some people just can't shake no matter how hard they try? Is this simply the result of having spent so much time away from home and never being able to truly be stress free? I'm not sure and I tend to never really be sure about the source of my blues. Perhaps this is merely a low point that will easily be balanced out by future high points. Perhaps I am simply dwelling on the negative right now because there isn't anything new and different to draw out my excitement. No matter the reason, falling into a bad funk before exam week is a bad idea. Dear reader, I discourage you from doing so and I'm going to make some suggestions in case you find yourself in the same position that I'm in.
My first suggestion is to take a break. Not a five or ten minute break, but a solid chunk of time where you can just worry about yourself, and genuinely do something you like. I'm trying to do that now, through waking up early and writing, but everyone has something that they do to relieve stress. The only time this "fool proof" plan doesn't work is when I suffer from some kind of writers block.
Suggestion number two is to talk to someone about how you feel. Talking to someone can help you get to the source of your unhappiness. Finding the source of unhappiness can often help get rid of it. It's also good to take time to vent about your grievances especially if you're someone who keeps things locked up until explosion. I suggest finding someone who has a track record for listening. If a friend is not willing to listen to your problems it will only make things worse for you and possibly cause unnecessary tension in the friendship.
Something else that I do, that may or may not be truly helpful, is rationalizing things. I ask myself: Why am I unhappy? Is there a good concrete reason for my unhappiness? If there isn't, I try to get myself to just simply stop being unhappy and dwelling on negative thoughts. Thinking rationally and realistically is better for me than being guided by my impulse and the same is probably true for others. I am unsure that this rationalizing is just a way of avoiding my emotions and bottling them up, but at least until the end of exam week, I don't see any other effective options
I wish I had more or better advice, but I am honestly not the best as handling my emotions effectively. Stress tends to make me short tempered, put me on the verge of tears at random intervals throughout the day and question the integrity of my friendships making me excessively paranoid for no reason. Once I get through the next few weeks I should be ready to dedicate sometime to sorting out my emotions. For now, I condone the use of quick fixes and compartmentalizing. I am writing this piece in hopes of helping others out and in turn reminding myself of ways I can get rid of this unhappiness. I pride myself in acknowledging it this time as opposed to completely ignoring it until an emotional breakdown.
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